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Push and pull at her long hair, topple her to the solid ground,
elbow her sharply in the raw gut, shove her harshly around.

Scratch him in the pale face, punch him in the broken jaw,
do anything necessary to him that's considered breaking the law.

And when she cries because you've punched her, let her be,
and observe her when she returns to her habitual smoking.

When she passes out next day, because she's drunken too much booze,
slap her in the face once more, though many would consider it abuse.

When he can hardly walk because he thinks he's high in the clouds,
rip the needle out of his arm, and with your nails, slash him across the sweaty brow.

Grab them and shake them till their battered and bruised,
tear at their heart, scream in their ears until you've reached the point of verbal abuse.

And when she falls into your chest, and he collapses to the ground,
pull them closely, and whisper, “We can turn this all around.”

And rehab is a necessity for all of you, because you've all suffered just the same.
When tough love is introduced into a household, you think you burden all the blame.

But sometimes it's necessary to toss them around, to smack some shit into them,
and to beat them to the ground.

Because you're the husband, it's what you have to do.
Because you're their wife, and it can be only you.

Because for better of for worse, you must do what is necessary, to make your love true.
Update: Ooohhh: relooking this, I have a completely different interpretation of this. I think we all help in ways that we think our helping, and sometimes they do, and sometimes they don't. But when we grow so fed up with things, and when situations are at their worse, and we don't know where to go, we do things that we think “help”. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. Sometimes people think understanding can only be achieved through fists.


It's not necessarily that professional help doesn't work, it's that when people can't get professional help, we start doing things that we think help, because we don't know where to go, and sometimes, we're ashamed, sometimes we feel like shit.


But yea, re-reading this, i've seen how messed up things are. 

"Formelt Abuse is Sometimes necesary", changed to, "


I'm not promoting or supporting senseless abuse, however, I stand behind smacking some sense into someone when they're losing themselves. To some of you this poem may come off as harsh, but I give my friends and my future husband (if I have one :( ) Permission to smack me across the face if I slip into some stupid shit that i've gotten myself into. 
If I'm clinging to drugs like a life source, than It needs to be wrestled away from me if I'm not letting go. Sometimes things will get physical because it's the only way things can be solved in situations like that. 
Many of you won't like this, and I can understand, but this is my opinion on a situation like this. I believe in tough love 100%. 
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star3catcher Featured By Owner May 30, 2015
Only if I was in immediate danger of harming myself or another (running at them with a knife). Not drug addiction or anything though, there are better ways for that.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2015  Student Traditional Artist
I agree, I think people do what they think helps other people, and eventually they end up hurting them. 
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psychosquatch Featured By Owner May 17, 2015
Don't abuse the addict. They likely fell into that cycle because of abuse. BTW, I'm an alcoholic who was abused by those who claimed to "help" me as a child, so yeah...
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lidsworth Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Student Traditional Artist
I see where you're coming from. I think based on experience and certain scenarios, different people react to things differently, in ways that they think may help, when in actuality, they may not know what they're doing. 
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FearOfInfinity Featured By Owner Jan 19, 2015  Student Traditional Artist
I don't necessarily agree. It depends on what the addict is like. Some people, like you, would like to be given tough love to pull them through and make them see what they're doing/come to their senses. For others (I'd personally like to believe most people), it'd likely make matters much, much worse. 

I'd also like to believe that some of what you're saying in the poem is metaphor. Hitting them won't do much good unless you have words or sense behind it, and convey that to the person. Else they'll merely believe that you're hitting them for no reason, and that's one way to get someone depressed and back on drugs.
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ComixThreeSevens Featured By Owner Edited Dec 11, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Bullshit. Pure bullshit. Abuse is the never the answer, dumbass.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Dec 11, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Opinions vary, as you may see in the comments. But I respect yours, though you don't respect mine. Thank you for taking the time to comment. 
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Avii-chan123 Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Do smack some sense into people if they are needing some realization. DON'T smack them out of frustration.You love then don't you?Sometimes action has to be taken. BTW , I love this poem, even though its a tad too violent for me.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Thank you, many people were missing the point! And I do agree with what you were saying. 
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Fuschiabell Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
How exactly would hitting someone make them stop being an addict?  Surely most addicts became addicts in the first place because they had a hard life or were abused and couldn't cope with that etc?  How is abusing them more helping them?  How is slapping them in the face when they're already unconscious going to change a thing? And how the hell can you ever say that beating someone in such a horrific way is love?

Would you only do this for drugs/alcohol?  What about casual smoking of cigarettes?  What about eating unhealthy foods that makes them fat?  What about them just doing things you don't want them to do?  If you start on this path and see results, where would you draw the lines?  Abuse is about control and ALL abuse is ALWAYS bad and NEVER love.  
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TheBakerandWriter Featured By Owner Aug 15, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
May I please comment on what you have said here? I have had personal experience with the exact thing lidsworth is speaking about here. My aunt and uncle had a very rough time in their relationship because my uncle was drinking himself to death. He did not have a hard life he had a very pleasant one the reason he got into drinking was because of games and just having  agood time but he got addicted to the bottle. Many a times she had to hit him to try and get him conscious again and no she did not like what she was doing nor did she really want to do it but she did so she could have a husband around for her children. And guess what it ended up working. He realized she would do whatever she had to do to keep him there and he realized how much he was hurting his family by this. So no all abuse is not always bad and yes it is out of love sometimes, because my uncle and aunt love each other even more for that. So please consider this...thank you.
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Fuschiabell Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
What you decribe sounds different to what the poem sounds like its describing. Did your aunt hit him just to try and get him conscious, or at other times too, just because she felt he deserved it?  To me, the poem sounds like if someone is an addict, you have the right to beat them up just because they deserve it. It sounds like they can be severely beaten up, not to achieve some purpose like trying to get them conscious, but just to teach them some kind of random lesson (like that they're pathetic useless muck that is only worthy of being beaten). 

Did your aunt try other things, like leaving him and only having him back if he gets sober?  That might have made him realise he was hurting his family too. Also, leaving someone is still tough love. You probably don't want to leave them because you love them, but sometimes you have to for the sake of your kids and to get the person to realise you won't put up with that behaviour anymore.  Also, you can't be the only one doing the loving. They have to love you back too, and that means changing in order to get you back. If they don't love you enough to bother stopping hurting you, then what's the point of one sided love? You're doing all you can to save a person who quite frankly is just abusing you through their alcoholism, and if you're stuck in that situation then sometimes you're the one who really needs saving and who needs to learn self love. 

I'm really glad that things worked out for your aunt and uncle. I can understand why she did what she did. I still think its messed up though and I personally still don't agree with it. I think she should have left him so her kids could be brought up in an alcoholic free, abuse free environment. Maybe they got that eventually but they probably still had to live through years of hell first. 

I also don't agree with it because like I said in my original post, where can you draw the lines?  Hit them only when they're severe alcoholics?  Hit them because they got drunk once?  Hit them because they've got a mental illness? Hit them because they're fat?  You could argue that you did it out of love and that it worked. After all maybe if you hit your gf, she will stop being so fat because she'll stop eating so much out of fear of you hitting her again. Maybe you'd have saved her from getting a heart attack. That's love, right?  Where's the difference?  You saved her life and made her a better person who will be there for your kids.  The argument can be applied to so many situations and it is how abusive people think and the type of excuses they make.  

Its messed up love and its the abuse that messed it up (primarily his because him being an alcoholic was abusive in the first place). 
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TheBakerandWriter Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
No she did not hit him only to get him conscious she did hit him out of frustrations of him coming home wasted and getting so bad he'd get toxic poisoning time after time. But she wasn't proud of what she was doing no. And the way she puts it in her poem they are not proud of what they are doing either but they do it so they keep them there with them.

Yes she did leave him once and he did stay sober for a month only to do it once again when she came back to him. My cousins came to live with me and my grandparents for a while because of that my aunt didn't want them seeing what was happening to their father both because of his own actions and hers. They still loved each other very much but he didn't realize how badly he was hurting them by his drinking. He didn't realize a lot of what he was doing because he was basically intoxicated 99% of the time. They went through a lot of trial and error in their marriage through that.

Yes I agree with you that there is a fine line here but I have to agree with the content of this poem because I have witnessed it first hand. But I must also disagree with what you are saying about the boyfriend issue. That to me is a whole nother issue. Here they are basically killing themselves yes in the long run she may as well but to me he is just dissatisfied at how she looks.
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Fuschiabell Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
So he became sober when she left him?  Surely that proves that leaving him works and it isn't necessary to resort to violence?  She came back too soon and should have left again when he returned to drinking. 

He did realise how badly he was hurting them. He realised that she left because of his drinking. He sobered up because of it. When he was sober, he knew what he had done. He knew it hurt her. He knew it hurt his kids. He chose to drink again. That isn't love. That's taking her for granted and taking advantage of her loyalty to him... She came back, so why does he need to stop?  If she stays, then why does he need to stop?  She's proving she'll put up with it, so why would he need to change?  If he loved her, he'd change just because he doesn't want to hurt her. He obviously didn't love her enough. If he wasn't drinking to cope with some deep seated pain, then he doesn't even have that as an excuse. 

She hit him out of frustration?  When she hit him, do you think she was thinking "I'm hitting him so he will stop drinking and because I love him and want to save him", or do you think she was thinking "You're ruining my life, I hate you!  I can't believe you're doing this to me and the kids again, you awful, awful man!"

Abused people often stay with their abuser and keep coming back to them even when they do leave. This is usually because they're trauma bonded to them. A trauma bond can feel like really intense love to the person experiencing it, but its not love.  Sounds to me like they were probably codependent and trauma bonded. 
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TheBakerandWriter Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Alright I see your point but I am going to make this short and sweet. I see them almost everyday I saw what was going on when this was happening and it was rather recent withing the last 7 years but he is fine now. What she did helped him. She hit him because she wanted him to stop because she loved him to much to do nothing professional help wasn't working and when she left him he did sober up and she came back because she thought he would stop but he didn't. He continued doing it but in the end he did stop they worked it out together and it is not a trauma bond it is love...
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Fuschiabell Featured By Owner Aug 17, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm really glad that it worked out for them. I understand why you believe what you believe. However, it hasn't changed my mind or my beliefs. Violence was not necessary. It wasn't the only way to get results. I think she probably feels the strongest possible type of love for him that would have made her go through hell and back for him, to remain utterly loyal to him no matter what he did to her and to feel like she can't leave him or ever live without him, even if he doesn't love her back and treats her like dirt. That's why I think it's a trauma bond. 
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TheBakerandWriter Featured By Owner Aug 17, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I respect your opinions but I stand by mine as well. Thank you.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Hello there! I see where you're coming from regarding the "abuse". Though sometimes a "smack" in the face is necessary when things get very, very bad. I, and some others in the comments have been through something that requires that extra jolt, though this poem is an example of just how bad things can get in a broken household. Violence should never be a first option. Again, I see where you're coming from, and I understand it completely. 
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MorphoAdonis Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Except that you're deciding for them what is right and wrong, like a pretentious asshole. Frankly, if I slipped into drugs, my partner should leave me, not beat me. Because they don't decide what's best for me, I do. Who is anyone to decide what is right and wrong for another human being?
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Than that's not really love or commitment, is it? 
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MorphoAdonis Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Of course it is. It's the respect of another person's individual spirit. From a Buddhist standpoint, what you're describing isn't love at all. It's selfishness, and control. Deciding that this person's choices are wrong and must be interfered with, even at the cost of hurting them, is horrendously selfish, controlling and cruel.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
If being Buddhist means leaving the one you love alone to fend for themselves, than i'd gladly skip on them. If someone close to me is doing something terrible to themselves, I should just leave them and let them kill themselves? Sounds to me like it's just an excuse not to deal with shit when it comes your way. Abandoning someone you love because you don't think you have the "right" to dictate what they're doing is wrong or right, when you know full well that it's wrong, is selfish.
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MorphoAdonis Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
It's not leaving them to fend for themselves. It's not abandoning them. You can still be there for them, try to get them help, talk to them, offer them whatever they may need for their recovery, provided they will accept it.

But hitting them to try to force them to stop a behavior you don't agree with is wrong. Because frankly, right and wrong are all opinions. Your opinion that meth is bad is not more valid than my opinion that smoking cigarettes is bad. But neither you or I have any right to go beat someone we care about just because we think what they are doing is wrong. Eating fast food can kill you, easily. But we don't punch out people at McDonalds because it's a socially acceptable self-destructive habit. Just because other self-destructive habits are not socially acceptable does not make them "more wrong" and somehow make it acceptable to use force to stop another adult from making the choices they want to make, and most importantly, hitting someone to make them stop a self-destructive habit DOES NOT work, because of course, it only adds to the pain and isolation they feel that probably led them to the habit in the first place..

You don't get to control other people, even if you don't like what they are doing, and you certainly don't get to try to convince them with your fists.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2014  Student Traditional Artist

But would that not be deeming their choice a bad choice if you even thought of recovery for them? I thought it wasn't up to us to dictate others choices, good or bad. You even said, " Frankly, if I slipped into drugs, my partner should leave me, not beat me. Because they don't decide what's best for me, I do" Disregarding the beating in the sentence, you still say your partner has no idea what's best for you despite the fact that if you're married, you're technically "one". So why even entertain rehab, or recovery if it's not up to you? why bother? 
If you do your research regarding drugs, than you'll start to realize that the brain is deteriorating and acting abnormally. That is bad, and scientifically proven to be bad, so it's not a matter of opinion, it's a matter of scientific facts. I admit, the poem went over board, and showed the worse of the worse, but if we know that something is quickly killing someone we love, when all other options are lost, we need to do what we can to save them. Leaving them isn't the option. I suppose if your loved on was drinking a can of cyanide you'd just sit there and cheer them on, no biggie. It'll only take them a little while to kill themselves...really.

When you're really in love with someone, which i'm proud to say, you're not, than you'll learn that you'll sometimes have to step out of your comfort zone to save them. If you're just going to stand there and watch someone destroy themselves, than love isn't the right thing for you, neither is a commitment.

“Eating fast food can kill you, easily. But we don't punch out people at McDonalds because it's a socially acceptable self-destructive habit. Just because other self-destructive habits are not socially acceptable does not make them "more wrong"” Like I said earlier, this is when it gets its worse, when you know that someone is like a month away from deaths door, trust me, many people would do whatever it takes.

“You don't get to control other people, even if you don't like what they are doing, and you certainly don't get to try to convince them with your fists. “ True, we don't control other people, but that doesn't mean we leave them. We do whatever we can. And I agree, violence should never be an option, but unfortunately, in many households, it is, and will continue to be. I don't condone abuse, and like i've said, this is a little over exaggerated, but it paints a real situation. If I had to wrestle a knife out of someone's hand because they're trying to kill themselves, I will. My friend had to wrestle someone's neck out of a tie because they were about to kill themselves. I suppose if it were you, you'd most defiantly let them hang, huh? Thank you for your many opinions and I do see where you're coming from, believe me. However, I lost a lot of respect for you when you first commitment, but you've probably lost all respect for me, if you had any to begin with so that's fine.

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MorphoAdonis Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
The first point; No, because you are not committing them to the recovery against their will. You OFFER it to them, to take or leave.

Another thing; This person is taking their life into their own hands.


"I suppose if your loved on was drinking a can of cyanide you'd just sit there and cheer them on, no biggie."

Lol yeah because my only choices are to beat the shit out of them or CHEER THEM ON. Are you fucking five?

If I found someone in a necktie, no, I would not let them hang. But neither would I beat them afterward.

As for someone hanging at death's door, there is a difference between doing even hard drugs (you don't always die) and having done it so long and hard that you are actually about to die.

Also, do my fucking research? How about my severely alcoholic mother? How about my meth addict cousin? How about my best friend that left me for heroin addiction? Should I research them?

I have a lot of goddamn experience with this. The point is, BEATING THEM DOESN'T MAKE THEM STOP. There's a difference between stopping someone from an imminent suicide attempt, and trying to beat a drug addiction out of someone like some kind of fucking exorcism. Because people can be heavily addicted to drugs for decades. If you have a wife who is addicted to meth, and you beat her every day trying to make her stop, guess what? IT WON'T FUCKING WORK. Are you retarded? Have you ever even met a drug addict? Many of them are trauma and abuse victims, beating them only INCREASES THE SYMPTOMS THAT THEY ARE TRYING TO ESCAPE BY USING DRUGS. HENCE, INCREASING DRUG INTAKE.

 Guess what? Plenty of domestic abuse victims are alcohol and drug victims. Being beaten clearly didn't work for them. My alcoholic mom? She had an abusive husband who once broke her jaw because she was drinking too much. Guess what? She still wakes up to a bottle of jack daniels every morning. I have offered her all the support, love and ersources I can, and she even once quit drinking for three months after going to AA meetings I suggested to her. Then she relapsed, and I spent all night with her crying and blubbering in my arms, completely emotionally regressed to a child, crying about what a bad person she is.

The fact is, even if you resort to violence, you DON'T have the power to make people stop doing drugs. Yes, you can stop an imminent suicide attempt because that's an acute crisis situation. It's different than forty years of xanax an alcohol abuse, or a sixty year old meth addict. Punching them in the face is NOT gonna make them stop. It never has. Any substance abuse psychologist would not know whether to stare in horror or laugh at your ridiculous understanding of both the psychology of drug/alcohol abuse, and of treatment.

But please, give me more red herring arguments about how I'd "just let someone hang" or "cheer them on," because that is mature and not a logical fallacy of ridiculous proportions.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
And earlier in my previous reply, I said more than once that this poem was over exaggerated, and to disregard beating someone. I specifically said that, yet you chose to ignore that? That's real mature.
"The fact is, even if you resort to violence, you DON'T have the power to make people stop doing drugs." Have you tried though? I know people who have, and while it's not jumping on top of each other like wild animals, it's some sort of violence. And usually while it in itself doesn't always solve things, it sets of a chain of events that does. And I know you say a lot of people who fall into drug habits do so because of abuse or terrible situations, but there are also many of them who don't. Some think it's "cool", or do It because their friends do so.  
And yeah, I've met drug addicts, they make up a good portion of my family and friends, so we're in the same boat. 
And you did come off as very insensitive, but I'm sorry if I ofended you. And yeah, I know that many psychologist probably would laugh if they read this, but I also know that many people who've been through this would understand, and in the comments, have understood and have had to restort to this. I'm not writing this to impress doctors or anyone at that, I'm writing it because it's something I, and some of my commentators and watchers have been through. We don't all have the money to receive "help" so we do what we can. If the "specialist" laugh at what we've been through, than oh well. 
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InkDrawnDreamer Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Student General Artist
Very interesting and your flow is very smooth. I have never thought of this much before, but I have to say I agree with you now that I have.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Thank you!
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InkDrawnDreamer Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014  Student General Artist
Anytime C:
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Kenny12041204 Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2014
I agree, this is unfortunately what HAS to happen in some households.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Agreed. Thank you. 
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Lapulta Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I have to agree with you, though I don't think I could ever be that violent. x'D I definitely hope that if I gain a husband, I want to be able to call him on his shots and I want him to do the same to me. Other people might consider it rude or harmful, but I think it's a good thing. It means I can trust him, and hopefully he'll know that he can trust me to do the same.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Agreed. IT's a huge trust thing. 
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TheBakerandWriter Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I loved this and i see where you are coming from when you say that sometimes professional help doesn't work. I have seen this 'abuse' happen before with my aunt and uncle because he was drinking himself to death and  my aunt had to literally fight him to get him to drop the bottle so many times but she wasn't proud of it of course but she did what she needed to do to stop him and thankfully he is still around today.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I'm sorry to hear that, but it just shows how far we'll go for the ones we love. Some times "professional" help is either out of our reach, or just doesn't work. 
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onirique7 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't agree with you, because you shouldn't abuse anyone. It's never the solution and it's never ok. Why should I punch someone who is passed out because of alcohol or high on drugs? I don't think they would remember or even notice it...Of course it is hard for family members to see that someone who is close to them is addicted to drugs and people may slap them or scream at them . Some may think about their addiction when they realise that they are hurting their family but Addiction is not something you can just stop from one day to another, you need professional help. 
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I see where you're coming from, but some times it's necessary to smack some sense into someone to save them. When they refuse to listen and refuse rehab, trust me, they need the shock. Our opinions may differ due to our upbringings, or our circumstances. But sometimes, professional help won't work. It should never be a first option, but the term "smacking sense" into someone wasn't coined for nothing. 
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onirique7 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Yes, but I don't think `to smack sense into someone` means that you should push them to the floor, pull at their hair or punch them so hard that you break their bones. There's a difference betwenn Abuse and smacking sense into someone (at least there should be ^^) :/ You are right when you say that professional help doesn't work for everyone , but if you're unable to help yourself even if you want to it should be considered, of course it won't work if you don't want to change anything..I know what you're trying to say with your Poem but I think it's too violent. Thanks for the reply :)
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I see where you're coming from, as the poem did resemble a rather harsh scene. And yes, my poem is violent. I think it's the worse of the worse, and how bad things can get. So I understand where you're coming from completely. 
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Yamiga Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Student Writer

The issue that seems to be setting people off is the fact that you've used violence/abuse. I do understand where people are coming from, as I have seen many agree with the term 'talking' to a loved one rather than using violence, but in all honesty, I think many are sugar coating this situation which makes me fear for humanity.

Man or woman, drug abuse doesn't just affect the person taking it, but their family as well. A husband or wife taking drugs can single handedly ruin a relationship and even go as far as injuring a spouse and children as well.

I believe that in a case like that, when all options have been worn out, that violence is necessary. I think the word 'abuse', is also sugar coating it, because it's not abuse. Taking drugs in the first place is abuse. It's abuse to the drug taker, and the family as I may've mentioned before and I believe that just a simple slap on the wrist is not near enough to fix that situation.


Violence is harsh, it's terrible but it is necessary. There is such thing as 'slapping the sense', into someone, that just isn't a figure of speech. We sometimes need to be taught the hard way, and for a drug user, who has already pillaged their body so much, a punch, hit or slap should be nothing but pure comfort to them.


If physical violence isn't the answer, then what is? Talking to someone, telling them that 'oh I care about you', because after months of drugs you think that would help? And then what, they may enter a recovery program but what's to stop them from relapsing if they know you'll just appraoch their problem the same way as before. Sometimes words have no meaning, but in this case, your hands and fists do.

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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Agreed. 
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kaikageXIII Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014
I do not see violence as a first resort, but I do not see it as no option either. Violence is sometimes necessary as long as it isn't needless, like, let's say slapping your spouse because they said something rude? Not ok. At all. But slapping them after they refuse to go to rehab after surviving an O.D? I'd say it's warranted. Sometimes shock value is required for change, it's not something we should be proud of, but something we should understand is sometimes necessary.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Thank you so much for your comment. That is the point i'm trying to make. Senseless slapping is very much abuse, but to save someone's life, I think it's a must. 
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Raptorwolf-AML Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I see........
You shouldn't just abuse people like this, though...
Do it to try and snap them out of their trances.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
"Do it to try and snap them out of their trances." Agreed, thank you. 
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Raptorwolf-AML Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You're welcome.
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leesydreamy Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014
Your poem is very well written, but I have to agree with what some other people here are saying.  Smacking someone if they have some kind of drug addiction or some other kind of illness is not the answer(unless the person is outright abusing you for no reason, which I can understand self defense).  They simply just need to seek help somewhere. 
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I see violence as a last option. Smacking sense into the ones you love usually show just how committed you are. However, i do see where you're coming from. 
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AzuriaZyfire Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Physical violence is never the answer.  If a person is addicted to drugs or alcohol or something, smacking them/wrestling them away from them won't do anything to curb their addiction and get them help.  Nothing you can do will help that person if they don't desire to quit/get help.  Addiction is an illness and meeting that with violence is just sad and wrong.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I see where you're coming from, because most of the time "abuse" is not the answer. However, I come from a tough upbringing where we were spanked for the smallest things. I've seen people wasted away by drugs because they refuse to get help and refuse t listen to any one but themselves. It's selfish. Smacking smoke sense into them is better than nothing. 
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