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Dear Girls,

Please stop playing the victim.
Boys are not always the cause of your problems, chances are, you are. You just refuse to acknowledge it.
The more you blame them, the more bitter and spiteful you will become. Stop destroying yourself from the inside because you cannot take responsibility for the mess you've created.
Stop playing the victim. Get up and do something about it. Crying won't help, nor will hating the opposite sex.
If you're tired of being called a slut because you love breaking hearts, than stop sleeping around. If you're tired of being called a bitch, than stop treating boys like shit. If you're tired of being treated as an object, gain some self-esteem. If you're tired of starving yourself because of a break up, that's your problem. We told you to eat, but you won't listen. You only blame it one him, but who destroyed the relationship in the first place?
Whither away like the twig you are if it makes you feel better.
Problems are problems, they all have solutions. But blaming boys for them...That's stupid.
Stop playing the victim, get a life. Or if you can't do that, then get help. Because the world won't stop for you, it just won't. As emotional as you make yourself out to be, you're no one's princess.

Sincerely,
Canvass Dreamer

P.S: I'm a girl.
I've seen many recent works that focus on the point i've pointed out here, however, it's vice-versa. Boys are almost always blamed for girls personal problems. The way these are written makes it seem as if boys are the main enemies of girls, but that's not always the case! Sometimes it's girls themselves. 

I don't hate girls at all, I myself am a girl. But i've seen far too many cases where a girl ruins herself because of a boy. She blames him for all the shit that happens to her, and like wise, everyone else believes her because she's a girl. Thing is, he did nothing but try to love her_but she acted like a b%$# to him. Suddenly, everything bad that happens to her is his fault :/. 
 That pisses me off more than anything. Again, I speak for not just myself, but for many...etc., you understand. Sorry if I come off as insensitive, but it needed to be said. 

Tell me your thoughts

*(And I hope you know this is for this scenario only, you act like I speak of every girl (hence the descriptiveness I add), but it's directed towards one group, one *specific* group, and I'm sure you can all target that group. However, I think the fact that someone took the "male" side of this argument infuriated many of you.)*
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ColonelBSacquet Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2014
"If you're tired of being called a slut, than stop sleeping around."

If a man does that, is he called a gigolo ? Nope. He's praised for his good health, for his manly vigor.
He's called life-loving.

Double standards, I tell you.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Or he's just called a man whore now a days. But hey, if a girl is crying her heart out, people race to comfort her. If a guy is crying, he's either called gay or told to man up. Double standards, I tell you. 
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ColonelBSacquet Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2014
Well, of course, that kind of double standards is also quite common, alas.

And that is really a pity.
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mister-elephant Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2014
Woah, this can be sooooo easily misinterpreted. I know you're talking to the girls who really earned their reputation, those girls who can be really mean and really stupid. But it can come off as, well, "victim blaming". Not all the so-called sluts and bitches are really sluts and bitches - guys can be mean too! What if the girl did a mistake but now nobody is letting her forget it? What if false rumors about her were spread? What if she's being blackmailed into doing stuff she doesn't want? What if she's bullied? 

So be more specific, kay? Make it known that you're talking to the misguided girls, not to every girl that's been called mean names/has a bad reputation!
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I see where you're coming from, but this is just directed towards the specific group you mentioned, but I see how it can be misinterpreted. So If i ever write something like this again, I'll be sure to be more specific. 
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BloodLily16 Featured By Owner May 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
As a girl, I agree.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner May 10, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
so do I. 
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RoseSerpenthelm Featured By Owner Apr 21, 2014
My god this needed to be said. It is a little unbalanced, but blaming boys for every single problem is just dumb.

If a boy commits an unforgivable act (The less legal kind) then they can be blamed. But a boy is not a punching bag for feminazis
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lidsworth Featured By Owner May 10, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
true! Thanks for the comment!
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Luckyducky12 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
when will you realize that no matter what people will always side with the girl?

you speak the truth. no matter what anyone says.
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