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Dear Girls,

Please stop playing the victim.
Boys are not always the cause of your problems, chances are, you are. You just refuse to acknowledge it.
The more you blame them, the more bitter and spiteful you will become. Stop destroying yourself from the inside because you cannot take responsibility for the mess you've created.
Stop playing the victim. Get up and do something about it. Crying won't help, nor will hating the opposite sex.
If you're tired of being called a slut because you love breaking hearts, than stop sleeping around. If you're tired of being called a bitch, than stop treating boys like shit. If you're tired of being treated as an object, gain some self-esteem. If you're tired of starving yourself because of a break up, that's your problem. We told you to eat, but you won't listen. You only blame it one him, but who destroyed the relationship in the first place?
Whither away like the twig you are if it makes you feel better.
Problems are problems, they all have solutions. But blaming boys for them...That's stupid.
Stop playing the victim, get a life. Or if you can't do that, then get help. Because the world won't stop for you, it just won't. As emotional as you make yourself out to be, you're no one's princess.

Sincerely,
Canvass Dreamer

P.S: I'm a girl.
I've seen many recent works that focus on the point i've pointed out here, however, it's vice-versa. Boys are almost always blamed for girls personal problems. The way these are written makes it seem as if boys are the main enemies of girls, but that's not always the case! Sometimes it's girls themselves. 

I don't hate girls at all, I myself am a girl. But i've seen far too many cases where a girl ruins herself because of a boy. She blames him for all the shit that happens to her, and like wise, everyone else believes her because she's a girl. Thing is, he did nothing but try to love her_but she acted like a b%$# to him. Suddenly, everything bad that happens to her is his fault :/. 
 That pisses me off more than anything. Again, I speak for not just myself, but for many...etc., you understand. Sorry if I come off as insensitive, but it needed to be said. 

Tell me your thoughts

*(And I hope you know this is for this scenario only, you act like I speak of every girl (hence the descriptiveness I add), but it's directed towards one group, one *specific* group, and I'm sure you can all target that group. However, I think the fact that someone took the "male" side of this argument infuriated many of you.)*
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ColonelBSacquet Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2014
"If you're tired of being called a slut, than stop sleeping around."

If a man does that, is he called a gigolo ? Nope. He's praised for his good health, for his manly vigor.
He's called life-loving.

Double standards, I tell you.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Or he's just called a man whore now a days. But hey, if a girl is crying her heart out, people race to comfort her. If a guy is crying, he's either called gay or told to man up. Double standards, I tell you. 
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ColonelBSacquet Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2014
Well, of course, that kind of double standards is also quite common, alas.

And that is really a pity.
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mister-elephant Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2014
Woah, this can be sooooo easily misinterpreted. I know you're talking to the girls who really earned their reputation, those girls who can be really mean and really stupid. But it can come off as, well, "victim blaming". Not all the so-called sluts and bitches are really sluts and bitches - guys can be mean too! What if the girl did a mistake but now nobody is letting her forget it? What if false rumors about her were spread? What if she's being blackmailed into doing stuff she doesn't want? What if she's bullied? 

So be more specific, kay? Make it known that you're talking to the misguided girls, not to every girl that's been called mean names/has a bad reputation!
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I see where you're coming from, but this is just directed towards the specific group you mentioned, but I see how it can be misinterpreted. So If i ever write something like this again, I'll be sure to be more specific. 
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BloodLily16 Featured By Owner May 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
As a girl, I agree.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner May 10, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
so do I. 
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RoseSerpenthelm Featured By Owner Apr 21, 2014  Student Digital Artist
My god this needed to be said. It is a little unbalanced, but blaming boys for every single problem is just dumb.

If a boy commits an unforgivable act (The less legal kind) then they can be blamed. But a boy is not a punching bag for feminazis
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lidsworth Featured By Owner May 10, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
true! Thanks for the comment!
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Luckyducky12 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
when will you realize that no matter what people will always side with the girl?

you speak the truth. no matter what anyone says.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Thanks! And I see where you're coming from, at least here, in America. 
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Luckyducky12 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I always  say the same thing.

although there IS I fine line between an opinion and slut shaming.
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shewolfzoroark Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Seems to me you're getting a lot of hate for speaking the truth. It's happened to everyone. Good for you though, actually telling people. *highfives*
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Sometimes, the truth hurts too much for people, but it needs to be said! *highfives back*
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Whes Featured By Owner Apr 12, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
This is disgusting, misogynistic, and victim blaming. You should be ashamed for writing it.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Apr 12, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Think what you will, but when a girl blames a boy for her problems, a boy who has no control over her life, and makes him the bad guy, I don't side with the girl, I side with the guy. 
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Whes Featured By Owner Apr 12, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Victim-blaming misogynist bigot. Oops.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Apr 12, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
So siding with a boy who is wrongfully blamed for everything, because a girl is angry at him makes me a victim-blaming misogynist?
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Whes Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Nope. Calling girls sluts and blaming them for how badly they're treated by boys does.
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Luckyducky12 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
well it is pretty slut shaming but the person still has the right to post their opinion right?
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Luckyducky12 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
you do know that ive seen girls that deliberately does everything above to try to get a guy in trouble right?

you don't side with people like that do you?

and this is not slut shame/girl bashing this is stating what you believe.

seriously cant you respect that?  
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Thank you, but like you mentioned above, Whes is a feminist, a radical one at that, thus Whes will take the girls side always, even if the girl is a total bitch. Don't try arguing with her, she'll just spit hate back at you, even when all the facts are there in her face. 
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Luckyducky12 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
people like that support the fact that girls are more sexist than guys.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Good, that's exactly what I'm not doing. It's the exact opposite. 
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Whes Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
To say, "If you don't want to be called a slut, stop sleeping around," is victim blaming. And particularly misogynistic. Girls are allowed to have sex as often as they like (given consent). Justifying throwing sexist slurs at girls just because you don't personally approve of their lifestyle is bigoted.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
If you go around breaking people's hearts for your own enjoyment, yeah, I'll call you a slut. 
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LittlePawTheDrummer Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2014
I agree with this, some gals just need to step up to the plate and make a change for themselves if their life isn't going the way they want it.

Though I will blame the boys when the toilet seat is constantly up and there are splashes on the floor.... You can hit a deer from however far away but can't make it into the bowl from a foot or two? O.o
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Too true, i've met girls that believe the entire world will bend a knee for them. I've seen girls who treat boys like slaves, and enjoy it, but when their boyfriend suddenly wants to leave them, because he's tired of being treated like shit, she acts like the victim and suddenly, everyone hates him. 
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movingslow Featured By Owner Apr 9, 2014
Love this, not beating the bush, blunt, honest, and fav. 
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Thanks! I'm glad you liked it!
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starfire-zorua Featured By Owner Mar 17, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
You're not insensitive at all. You're right, it needed to be said.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Mar 17, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Thank you for understanding, I wanted to get a clear point across, but now a days, society is so damaged to certain truths. 
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starfire-zorua Featured By Owner Mar 17, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
You're not wrong there.
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long-danzi Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2014  Hobbyist
What you've done is victim blame. I'm not saying that girls should blame boys for every problem they've ever had, but sometimes there are more underlying factors.

'If you're tired of being called a slut, than stop sleeping around.' - There is no such thing as a slut. Why? How much or how little sex someone has is of no business to anyone, but themselves (And possibly that person's partner). You see, when a girl sleeps around she is called a slut and is ridiculed and dehumanised. When a boy sleeps around his called a player, or a heartbreakers or romeo or casanova. He is hailed as a good guy because he can get laid easily and does so often. Now, some people are just as judgemental of both boys and girls, but many aren't. And even so, as I said before, why does it matter how much sex someone's had? It doesn't make them less of a person. Sex is a natural and normal part of life and it's perfectly ok to enjoy it and have a lot or refrain from it for whatever reason.  

'If you're tired of being called a bitch, than stop treating boys like shit.' - The issue here is that a girl can be called a 'bitch' for refusing to smile, for refusing to date a guy (He is called the 'nice guy' and she is called the 'bitch'), for not taking a joke when a boy jokes about women belonging in the kitchen. When a man is assertive he is seen as a leader, when a woman is assertive she is either seen as a bitch, bossy or both. Hell, women are called bitches as a 'compliment' sometimes.

'If you're tired of being treated as an object, gain some self-esteem.' - Women are treated as objects everyday in all kinds of media, for wearing 'provocative' clothing, for being attractive. Being treated as an object versus a person leads to a lack of self-esteem and it's not like you can just go to the shop and buy some self-esteem. It's not surprising women have low self-esteem when they're constantly being told 'You have to be thin, but you have to have big boobs, a big butt and a skinny waist, your hair has to be long, your skin must be flawless, etc'. Trying to be all of those is virtually impossible. 

'If you're tired of starving yourself because of a break up, that's your problem. We told you to eat, but you won't listen. Whither away like the twig you are if it makes you feel better.' - Again this is probably a problem that goes a lot deeper than a break-up. People with eating disorders are mentally sick, what they're doing they can't help and they need help. Telling someone to suck it up and just eat helps no one. Mentally ill people have a chemical imbalance in their brain which causes them to do what they do. You can bet your ass that someone would be tired of starving themself, but they need help and support to get over it, not be told 'eat and get over yourself'. That will make it worse.
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Luckyducky12 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree with the slut shameing part whole heartedly but there are girls that go around and breaks guys hearts just for fun. hell ive been with three of them...do you want to comfort me? or just tell me to be a man and suck it up?
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long-danzi Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2014  Hobbyist
I have no doubt that there are girls that do that and I'm not denying it. It's just ridiculous to assume that is every girls intention and the same goes for guys. 
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Luckyducky12 Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
oh I know that. and I do agree that this is kind of slut shaming (I only said kind of because some people opinions are different). I believe its everyone's right to sleep around. I also believe that there is no human alive that will say that there are people who just want to ruin peoples life. I know a bunch of guys that blame girls for their problems too.
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long-danzi Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2014  Hobbyist
I find that a lot of feminists (who mean well) generalise a lot things about men and their meaning gets lost along the way.
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Luckyducky12 Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
yeah...it makes me very sad to see that. I'm a dude who sees himself as a very feminist person. so when I see that it's like it undone every thing I done.
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long-danzi Featured By Owner Apr 21, 2014  Hobbyist
I think they mean well, but they don't really know how to argue. An excellent example would be 'Tumblr feminists', some are reasonable and most are insane.
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Luckyducky12 Featured By Owner Apr 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
well the ones I don't think mean well are the ones who will hit a guy knowing that he won't hit back and still claim to be feminists.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
No, I'm not victim blaming, not in the least. 
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long-danzi Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2014  Hobbyist
Regardless of whether you believe that or not, my other statements still stand.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
You mean your other opinion. 
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:iconlong-danzi:
long-danzi Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist
That's not my opinion, that's fact.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
You know what, it is a fact. I am  victim blaming, and in some cases, I believe it's perfectly okay. 
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:iconlong-danzi:
long-danzi Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist
Then you are not a good person.
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
That's okay. A lot of us aren't. 
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Charchap Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2014
If you're tired of being called a slut then stop sleeping around ? Seriously ?
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lidsworth Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Seriously. 
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