But would that not be deeming their choice a bad choice if you even thought of recovery for them? I thought it wasn't up to us to dictate others choices, good or bad. You even said, " Frankly, if I slipped into drugs, my partner should leave me, not beat me. Because they don't decide what's best for me, I do" Disregarding the beating in the sentence, you still say your partner has no idea what's best for you despite the fact that if you're married, you're technically "one". So why even entertain rehab, or recovery if it's not up to you? why bother?
If you do your research regarding drugs, than you'll start to realize that the brain is deteriorating and acting abnormally. That is bad, and scientifically proven to be bad, so it's not a matter of opinion, it's a matter of scientific facts. I admit, the poem went over board, and showed the worse of the worse, but if we know that something is quickly killing someone we love, when all other options are lost, we need to do what we can to save them. Leaving them isn't the option. I suppose if your loved on was drinking a can of cyanide you'd just sit there and cheer them on, no biggie. It'll only take them a little while to kill themselves...really.
When you're really in love with someone, which i'm proud to say, you're not, than you'll learn that you'll sometimes have to step out of your comfort zone to save them. If you're just going to stand there and watch someone destroy themselves, than love isn't the right thing for you, neither is a commitment.
“Eating fast food can kill you, easily. But we don't punch out people at McDonalds because it's a socially acceptable self-destructive habit. Just because other self-destructive habits are not socially acceptable does not make them "more wrong"” Like I said earlier, this is when it gets its worse, when you know that someone is like a month away from deaths door, trust me, many people would do whatever it takes.
“You don't get to control other people, even if you don't like what they are doing, and you certainly don't get to try to convince them with your fists. “ True, we don't control other people, but that doesn't mean we leave them. We do whatever we can. And I agree, violence should never be an option, but unfortunately, in many households, it is, and will continue to be. I don't condone abuse, and like i've said, this is a little over exaggerated, but it paints a real situation. If I had to wrestle a knife out of someone's hand because they're trying to kill themselves, I will. My friend had to wrestle someone's neck out of a tie because they were about to kill themselves. I suppose if it were you, you'd most defiantly let them hang, huh? Thank you for your many opinions and I do see where you're coming from, believe me. However, I lost a lot of respect for you when you first commitment, but you've probably lost all respect for me, if you had any to begin with so that's fine.
The issue that seems to be setting people off is the fact that you've used violence/abuse. I do understand where people are coming from, as I have seen many agree with the term 'talking' to a loved one rather than using violence, but in all honesty, I think many are sugar coating this situation which makes me fear for humanity.
Man or woman, drug abuse doesn't just affect the person taking it, but their family as well. A husband or wife taking drugs can single handedly ruin a relationship and even go as far as injuring a spouse and children as well.
I believe that in a case like that, when all options have been worn out, that violence is necessary. I think the word 'abuse', is also sugar coating it, because it's not abuse. Taking drugs in the first place is abuse. It's abuse to the drug taker, and the family as I may've mentioned before and I believe that just a simple slap on the wrist is not near enough to fix that situation.
Violence is harsh, it's terrible but it is necessary. There is such thing as 'slapping the sense', into someone, that just isn't a figure of speech. We sometimes need to be taught the hard way, and for a drug user, who has already pillaged their body so much, a punch, hit or slap should be nothing but pure comfort to them.
If physical violence isn't the answer, then what is? Talking to someone, telling them that 'oh I care about you', because after months of drugs you think that would help? And then what, they may enter a recovery program but what's to stop them from relapsing if they know you'll just appraoch their problem the same way as before. Sometimes words have no meaning, but in this case, your hands and fists do.